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Setting a Specific Time to Talk by Ron Parikh

  • Posted by: Ron Parikh
  • 02th May 2016

Communication is essential to business and life, but when does it become a problem? It’s so easy these days to become distracted by communication, what with social media and smartphones, and when this happens, you might find yourself unable to get things done. It’s not that you don’t want to talk, but you also have to find a balance. In fact, that’s one of the problems that I and the other partners at the Chalak Mitra Group of Companies run into often: we’re all great friends, so when we end up chatting, it doesn’t stop. As a result, I’ve learned that it’s always best to plan out specific times to talk.

More Than a Meeting

Now, what I’m discussing here isn’t a typical meeting. A business meeting is where you and other people get together to discuss specific business information. Instead, I’m saying that you need to schedule specific times to talk to others about life. As mentioned, social media provides for easy communication, but are you really engaged when texting or sending a message? Although convenient, these forms of communication are impersonal at best and do not convey your emotions. I would much prefer to schedule a time to sit down face to face, whether that be over a meal or just hanging out, so that I can really engage the other person or persons.

Take Time Each Day

One of the reasons why I love working with the partners at the Chalak Mitra Group of Companies is that we all take time each day to eat lunch together. Whichever of us are in the office that day all go out to eat together, and when we do, we try to leave business talk off the table. I’ve also found it healthy to schedule time to talk with family daily so that my work schedule doesn’t keep me from them. Work can certainly get in the way of things, but scheduling a dedicated time to spend with my family has made me a much happier individual.

Talk About Your Day

One of the more simple things that people often overlook in conversation is just talking about their day. Too often, people get caught up in trying to find “important” things to talk about, and in doing so, they overlook the importance of just general conversation and sharing. When you talk about your day, you have the chance to relax and connect on a personal level rather than trying to find ways to inflate your importance in life. Someone shared a joke that made you laugh? Talk about it. You noticed someone on the street that looks like that guy in that show? Talk about it. Not every conversation has to be about the meaning of life. Instead, conversations should be about sharing your life.

Avoid the Negative

Another thing that I recommend when it comes to conversations: avoid the negative. Even if you got stuck in traffic or you had a disagreement with a co-worker, it’s best to keep conversations positive. Negativity has a way of rubbing off on people, and when you share negative experiences, you’re not doing anyone any favors. While it’s fine to blow off some steam when needed, don’t let it become a habit. Other people need your positive reinforcement just like you need theirs. When you allow negative discussions to become a habit, you not only drag yourself down, but you drag others down with you. They may then go on to spread negativity, creating a vicious cycle. When you stay positive, you build others up, and that’s what communication is all about

Ron Parikh